Saturday 31 March 2012

is All in Your Mind

In your mind, you had decided for your life -
which word you want to listen;
which person you want to share;
which journey you want to walk;
which destiny you want to arrive;
which life you want to take.

Not till you crack your head, crash your mind, you already decided.
is All in Your Mind!

Friday 23 March 2012

Learn a Life Philosophy

Because of the incident I faced in my previous job, I had to visit the industrial relation office (IRO) in the labour department.  As I felt that the incident has impacted me quite heavily, there is no way to avoid it.  When I arrived at the IRO last week, walked into the lift, I saw this quote pasted inside the lift,

"Keep away from the people who try to belittle your ambitions.
Small people always do that, 
but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great."
Mark Twain

It couldn't have put in a righteous place than this.  It gives everyone a sense that somehow, somewhere, even long ago, someone has understood how we, those who need to visit the IRO, feel!
Air Famosa Fort - Malaka, Apr 2008.


Thursday 22 March 2012

有话说 - Something To Say

Saw this on the chinese newspaper.  Translated in direct meaning.

说了又不听 - Say Also Don't Listen
听了又不懂 - Listen also Don't Understand
不懂又不问 - Not Understand Also Don't Ask
问了又不做 - Ask Also Don't Do
做了又做错 - Do Also Do Wrong
错了又不认 - Wrong Also Don't Admit
认了又不改 - Admit also Don't Change
改了又不服 - Change Also Not Willing
不服又不说 - Not Willing Also Don't Say

The expression is very accurate to the current world where everyone seems to think we are superior than others.

Monday 19 March 2012

Again, what get you there?

Even though I know it's harsh and tough to accept, it is the truth!
I felt a slap on the face, a punch on the head, but I have to agree with 
Professor Larry Smith.
After all, 
We Are The One Who Gave Ourselves All The Excuses!

Friday 16 March 2012

What get you there?

"Certainty of death, small chance of success... What are we waiting for?"
Gimli
The Lord of The Rings by JRR Tolkien

Little Gimli reminds me what my ancestors teach us about life - 60% talent, 30% hard work, 10% bravery!

As I turn back and look at things that had happened in life, bravery is the deciding factor of all the great memories. The moment of satisfaction when certain things seem impossible, it gets done! The moment of passion when it fulfills with the thought, yes, I done it! The moment of truth when it makes us feel free!

Without bravery, no exploration will be undertaken, no dream will be fulfilled, no aspiration wil be realised. Bravery gets you there!
Mt.Kinabalu - Sabah, Jul 2010.



Tuesday 13 March 2012

Guide to a Better Life by Professor Randy Pausch

Personality:
1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
3. Don't over do; keep your limits.
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does.
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
6. Dream more while you are awake.
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more.
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
Community: 
15. Call your family often.
16. Each day give something good to others.
17. Forgive everyone for everything.
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
19.Try to make at least three people smile each day.
20. What other people think of you is none of your business.
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.
Life:
22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
23. GOD heals everything.
24. Do the right things.
25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
27. The best is yet to come!
28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it!
30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.

Sunday 11 March 2012

In Memory of Mar 11, 2011

Looking back at the tsunami which happen to Japan on that's day, it is a good reminder to us on a couple of thigns in life.

First and for all, we can't fight nature.  Then, we better live harmonious with it.  Next, adapt as there is no other way. We also have to remind oureslves, in order to live without regret, we have to forgive ourselves for things that we didn't do because it is not within our ability and we have to forgive ourselves for things that we should have done but didn't do.
Pangkor Island, Dec 2006.
Life is not a fairy tale.  If it is good so far, be cautious to maintain it. If it has not been easy, you are on the right course. I wish  I have not done many things I shouldn't have, but then, I will never learn.

Thursday 8 March 2012

3 8 (Three Eight)

In our ethnic culture, we called those women who spoke nonsense all the times - 3 8 (Three Eight). 
Just like the not so English way of saying - when I was small instead of when I was a kid. So, I understand the meaning of 3 8 as like that since I was small.  In a way, 3 8 is a word meant for women.

Well, when I get to know the significance of the word 3 8, it is when I was told March 8 is the International Women's Day.  What a conincidence? Ya.  As you can see, the meaning of 3 8 goes back a long way. As traditionally, women were being deemed a weaker race, being treated more unfairly in all aspects and do not have the right for their own human right to begin with.  In 1909, International Women's Day was found to make awareness for women as an equal race and their right so should be deemed as full.

In Mar 8, 2008, the date brings another significancy.  It is after years of independent, the Malaysian comes to realize their right in deciding a government that they wanted instead of they're given. In that very day, it was the 1st time we Malaysian do not have 2/3 majority government as the people as voted the opposition into 5 states of goveernment out of the 13 states.  It was also a day the whole country felt awaken because the people did not speak any loud, did not go through violence, did not go through demonstration but Voted in Silence to Voice Out What is really in Their Mind - the Malaysian people wanted Change! Well, I know it sounded a bit chessy, a bit American and a bit timid but it is that simple.  The Malaysian people knows that if they don't start to vote for a change, their own government who manage their country will be left way behind by this complexly rapid changing world.

There you go, 3 8.  It sounds nothing as first, but it seriously is that important and significant!

Tuesday 6 March 2012

Two Wolves

I got this message from an email where the author is not identified.

One evening, an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, "My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all."
"One is Evil -  It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego."
"The other is Good - It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."

Saturday 3 March 2012

March 3rd

In Mar 3rd 2010, I wrote - If there is any meaning and purpose in life, it's meaning and purpose shall be developing your sense of responsibility to your left and right, to your elder and your own.

In Mar 3rd 2011, I wrote - It is not about what has been done, nor what is left, it is about whether we try our best. It is not about we are able to get over our mind and soul, it is about whether we can sleep with our conscience every night.  Be ignorant, of course, one will be happier. To understand, one shall be wiser. Englightenment brought great wisdom.  To get there, be patient!

In Mar 3rd 2012, I write you this blog.

After a month in peace, life seems to calm and getting back to normal. It is a strange thing when nothing is the best thing in life.

At first, I thought 2011 was the most difficult year for me after so many things had happened.  The story has to go back to Mar 2010.  I took a huge decision in Mar 2010 to leave my corporate job of 13 years to in search of my biggest dream since 8 year old.  When I was 8, I read an article regarding this place named Tierra del Fuego ( Mandarin translated as The Island of Fire).  The land of fire indeed as it is the Indian language.  It stays in my mind for 28 years like an old romance that refuses to go away.  It has been my dream to visit this very tips of the world where Ushuaia sits.  Ushuaia is named The End of The World as it is the southern most city at the Southern Hemisphere.

So bought my ticket, left my job, packed my bag and there I went for 3 months in South America.  It was the best time in my life for 3 months, the best. Well, while South America is another story.  I came home, feeling great, continuous my travel to Thailand and Indonesia.  When the 12 months were up, I start to look for a job as it has always been the plan.  That is when all the good time is over.

In Mar 2011, I got a new job and went back to work. Mom fell for the 1st time. We, the family, didn't think much other than she is getting old. Went home in May.  Then she fell the 2nd time, went home in July.  When she fell the 3rd time, alarm rang.  She was admitted to the hospital.  As usual, she was grumbling and wanted to go home.  Went home, admitted to hospital again after a week. That is when all hell break loose.  I went home to be with her, almost spent all my time in the hospital with her.  She was weak, but did not seem like the end yet.  In the same time, my job for 7th month started to become really difficult as multiple issues surfaced.  More over, a superior who is not much compassionate about my situation regarding family definitely not helping and situation worses.

After Mom discharged from the hospital for the 2nd time after a month long in there, I went back to work, well, to resign and serve the rest of my notice. That was November.  As I always believe, when the job is not working out, it is better to leave than to feel sorry.

Well, little that I know, I sure didn't see what 2012 has it coming. Jan 6 2012, I was quite down to almost a depression as my boss was really giving me a hard time and the notice period is 3 months. I got a call from my eldest sister at 8.35pm.  She told me Mom is gone!  In shock, that is the first.  Then, everything seems to untight itself.  Why that?  Well, Mom is the bond to everything and everything. I went home, sort out things.  When I came back to serve the rest of the notice, I was shown the worst side of a human being I ever seen in my life in my boss, in his action and in his mind.  I would say I shall never want to meet  such "ugly" human nature like that in my life again.  That was the double hit as the action he took with the sorrow already eating me inside.

I was lucky to have a friend who is supportive and wise.  For the whole February after, it was recuperation.  I never have such a bad time in my life.  I keep telling myself, relax, it is something I must go through in life.  I told myself many times that I could get through this, I am strong enough. I tell myself not to do anything, just eat, sleep, read and yoga. My friend told me - you don't need the job, you just don't do anything for at least 3 months, let things go natural. The emotion will come and go, but it feels good to just let the emotion out. I cried, I empty my mind, I sleep and I keep quite. 

I guess it does work as I feel much better after a month.  I try out some new things.  I look forward for the next 2 months.  But the bond is gone, the bond is gone and it will never come back! It felt like the whole direction I was living my life to, is lifted up, pull out with root, gone in the air.  It will take me some time, or more time, to figure out the next course of life I shall direct myself into.  It will take some time, but I know I shall be fine now.